A MUM has been slammed for her “gentle parenting” technique, after sharing a video of her toddler daughter misbehaving.
Influencer Tuesday Parazo regularly shares pictures and videos of her two kids on her social media pages, and recently posted a TikTok getting her kids ready for the day.
In a video on TikTok, her daughter Dorothy could be seen sitting on her baby brother, as well as her legs going over his face[/caption]
The clip began with her daughter Dorothy running around, as Tuesday asked her: “Do you think Solomon has done a poo poo?”
Dorothy seemed unconcerned about her mum’s question as she sat on the tot’s stomach, with Tuesday chastising her: “Oooh, you can’t sit on him just yet.”
The little girl then proceeded to hit her brother on his chest, before trying to push him over – as her mum continued trying to get the baby dressed.
Dorothy then put her legs over her sibling’s face, at which point Solomon burst into tears.
“Look you’ve upset him now,” Tuesday said, picking the baby up.
Undeterred, Dorothy continued doing the same thing, with her mum then picking her up, moving her to her other side and saying “No, that’s not nice Dorothy, no”.
The video then cut to Tuesday trying to get Dorothy dressed, with the toddler screaming loudly as she looked in her wardrobe.
Solomon lay on the floor behind his mum as she attempted to get her daughter to choose something to wear.
Tuesday then went ahead and got Dorothy dressed, and did her hair, before showing Solomon dressed in a cute coord, and her little girl in a purple jumper and checked trousers.
“Look at you, beautiful girl,” she said, as Dorothy ran down the corridor.
However, the comments section was almost immediately filled with people slamming Tuesday for not disciplining Dorothy more firmly for her naughty behaviour.
“This is terrible to watch…. Why is this allowed to happen … poor little boy,” one sighed.
“NO this is not ok,” another added.
“I hate gentle parenting! It triggers me!!” a third commented.
“What the hell is going on here? Poor baby, this is a social services concern,” someone else wrote.
“Sorry but mum if 4 whose dealt with it all and this isn’t okay, she’s not going to get ‘gentler’ or less jealous,” another added.
Different parenting styles explained
There are four recognised styles of parenting explained below:
Authoritarian Parenting
What some might describe as “regimental” or “strict” parenting.
Parents with this style focus on strict rules, obedience, and discipline.
Authoritarian parents take over the decision-making power, rarely giving children any input in the matter.
When it comes to rules, you believe it’s “my way or the highway”.
Permissive Parenting
Often referred to as “soft parenting” or “yes mums/dads”.
Permissive parents are lenient, only stepping in when there’s a serious problem.
They’re quite forgiving and they adopt an attitude of “kids will be kids”.
Oftentimes they act more like friends than authoritative figures.
Authoritative Parenting
Authoritative parents provide their children with rules and boundaries, but they also give them the freedom to make decisions.
With an authoritative parenting style, parents validate their children’s feelings while also making it clear that the adults are ultimately in charge.
They use positive reinforcement techniques, like praise and reward systems, as opposed to harsh punishments.
Neglectful or Uninvolved Parenting
Essentially, neglectful parents ignore their children, who receive little guidance, nurturing, and parental attention.
They don’t set rules or expectations, and they tend to have minimal knowledge about what their children are doing.
Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time or energy to meeting children’s basic needs.
Uninvolved parents may be neglectful but it’s not always intentional.
A parent with mental health issues or substance abuse problems, for example, may not be able to care for a child’s physical or emotional needs consistently.
“This isn’t gentle parenting sorry?” someone else insisted.
“This is pure cruel, to watch her put her legs over his face & watch his face go red from the screaming.
“Nope my heart couldn’t handle that.”
“Solomon’s gonna end up in A&E if you don’t stop this gentle parenting, she needs telling!” another wrote.
As someone else said that “gentle parenting equals lazy parenting”, another wrote: “I don’t think gentle parenting is the right approach when a child is behaving in that way”.
However there were those who defended Tuesday in the comments too.
“You’re all acting like your never seen this or gone through this as a mum of two close in age,” one wrote.
“Stop mum shaming other mums, she’s doing an amazing job raising two babies.
“You’re seeing 10s of the whole day!! Don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all!!
“Start to be nice to other mums instead.”
“I’m seeing a whole lotta judgement on this post and it is not a vibe,” another insisted.
“She’s doing a great job, I had two boys 11 months apart so I know the battles well!
“You’re doing a great job girl, keep going.”
“Well done for staying calm!” someone else said.
“People need to realise that Dorothy is also still a baby and I think you handled this perfectly!
“She has no idea what her legs are doing and just wanted to join in helping get him dressed.”