SAM FAIERS has been mum-shamed for having “no control” over her kids after her two-year-old son’s defiant display during a lunch out.
The mum-of-three is having cameras follow her and her family for her and sister Billie’s new ITVX reality show Sam & Billie: Sister Act.
Sam Faiers was seen struggling with her naughty son Edward in an episode from her new reality series Sam & Billie: Sister Act[/caption]
The programme is a no-holds barred look at motherhood, and a recent episode saw Sam struggling to deal with her two-year-old Edward during a restaurant lunch.
Sam admitted Edward was a “ticking time bomb” as they waited for their lunch to appear.
Once the plates were on the table, Edward was seen throwing chips at his seven-year-old sister Rosie, who had been sitting quietly eating her own lunch.
“Oi, oi! Excuse me!” Sam was heard saying to Edward.
It then appeared as though a member of the public commented on the fact Edward was throwing his food, as Sam responded: “Oh, yeah.
“I told him not to do it, but he’s not listening to me.”
“They’ll ask you to leave this restaurant,” Sam warned her son.
Once Edward was finished with his lunch, he got down from the table, and began seeing what else he could use to entertain himself.
He looked as though he was going through a bag Sam had bought with them, and seemed to have found some kind of lip gloss.
“Okay, we can’t have that. It’s all sticky,” Sam told Edward as she took it off him.
“Come and sit down.”
He was then seen heading off for a wander around the shop, as he came back with a glass bottle of apple juice, and handed it to his mum as he said it was “heavy”.
“Why are you so cheeky?” she asked her little boy, who flashed a smile at his mum.
“Yeah, you’re a cheeky, aren’t you?”
“Let’s be honest, there’s no such thing as a peaceful lunch when you’ve got a two-year-old there,” Sam said in a piece to the camera.
The next thing shown was Edward clambering around on the floor, as Sam pleaded with him to “stand up”.
Different parenting techniques
Here are some widely recognised methods:
Authoritative Parenting
This technique will often foster independence, self-discipline, and high self-esteem in children.
It is often considered the most effective, this technique is where parents set clear expectations – enforcing rules – whilst also showing warmth and support.
Authoritarian Parenting
This is opposite to authoritative parenting, as it is where the parent sets high demands but is low on responsiveness.
It involves ensuring the child is obedient and often employ punitive measures. While this can lead to disciplined behaviour, it may also result in lower self-esteem and social skills in children.
Permissive Parenting
Permissive parents tend to be indulgent and lenient, often taking on a role more akin to a friend than an authority figure. They are highly responsive but lack demandingness, granting children a lot of freedom. This method can nurture creativity and a free-spirited nature but may also result in poor self-regulation and difficulties with authority.
Uninvolved Parenting
Uninvolved or neglectful parenting is marked by low responsiveness and low demands. Parents in this category offer minimal guidance, nurturing, or attention. This often leaves children feeling neglected, which can have significant negative effects on their emotional and social development.
Helicopter Parenting
Helicopter parents are extremely involved and overprotective, frequently micromanaging their children’s lives. Although their goal is to protect and support, this approach can hinder a child’s ability to develop independence and problem-solving skills.
Free-Range Parenting
Free-range parenting encourages children to explore and learn from their surroundings with minimal parental interference. This method promotes independence and resilience but requires a safe and supportive environment to be successful.
Attachment Parenting
According to Marriage.com, Attachment parenting focuses on physical closeness and emotional bonding, often through practices such as co-sleeping and baby-wearing. This approach aims to create secure attachments and emotional well-being, but demands significant time and emotional commitment from parents.
Each of these parenting techniques has its own set of strengths and weaknesses. The key is to find a balanced approach that aligns with the family’s values and meets the child’s needs for a healthy, happy upbringing.
“Mummy, I don’t want to,” Edward could be heard saying, as Sam continued with trying to get him to do what she wanted.
She was ultimately unsuccessful though, as she said: “I think it’s time to cut our losses and get out of here.
“Right, come on, then. Let’s go.”
The clip was shared on TikTok, with the comments section quickly full of people taking aim at Sam.
“I took my daughter out to eat all the time,” one wrote.
“She sat in her chair ate her food and then played with what ever I took with us to occupy her.
Zero punishment or consequences for bad behaviour in all of these kids – wet lettuce parenting
TikTok commenter
“She was not allowed to get out of her chair and certainly did not throw her food at people.
“I’m sorry very poor parenting.”
“I’m sorry but her and Billie’s kids do what they want!” another added.
“Gentle parenting doesn’t work! I’m sorry but he needs the complete opposite!” a third insisted.
“Too much pandering, not enough boundaries and discipline,” someone else sighed.
“No control of her kids at all,” another wrote.
“They are the same as Billie’s.”
“Have no control over their kids,” someone else agreed.
“Zero punishment or consequences for bad behaviour in all of these kids,” another added.
“Wet lettuce parenting!”
However, there were also those who defended Sam, insisting she is doing the best she can with her son being in the “terrible twos”.
“Leave her alone,” one urged.
“it’s the most stressful age to take anywhere and she will be judged whatever she does.”
“Anyone else think that there’s nothing abnormal here???” another asked.
“It’s not going to be picture perfect! He’s tried and bored! Give the kids a break!”
“People who think this isn’t normal for a 2 year old probably have their kids stuck on tablets,” a third said.
“I don’t know why people get on their backs about the behaviour of the kids,” someone else wrote.
“Everyone’s kids have been like this – the only difference is we haven’t been filmed.”
It’s not the first time Sam has found herself targeted by mum-shamers.
She recently caused controversy when she revealed she doesn’t apply sun cream to her kids on their many holidays abroad – and never has.
And attempted to persuade him to get up from the floor[/caption]